My functioning alcoholic sister and her daughter (now 19) moved in with my mother six years ago. Going against all common sense, medical advice and ethics, my sister has been providing my mother with alcohol which I believe has caused numerous health issues and several falls.
My sister insists my mom begs her and she just can't say no. It's a stereotypical enabling relationship.
Mom is currently in a rehab for broken ribs and elbow due to a fall. She THRIVES in facilities because she is well taken care of and not drinking.
Last year I attempted to bring Mom to live with me but she wasn't interested and her doctor said she is of sound mind so I can't force her.
I'm flying down next week to visit and would like advice on what I can say to my sister to scare her straight. I don't really want to call elder abuse but I will if I have to. My sister also has a temper and I'm concerned she'll take any probing out on my mother.
Are there any agencies I can call or even pay to help monitor my mother?
Wish I could fix them all!!!!