I keep asking my mom's geriatric doctor about it and its been impressed upon me that it doesn't solve a full time aid issue, I lost some control over decision making and I already have 24/7 access to a concierge doctor. Thinking i'm jumping the gun on this and maybe its better to wait till I'm giving her opiods and we're not there yet.
Mom's doctor s trying to make sure you understand that in addition to hospice, you will need to hire full-time care. Yes, you can provide it yourself, but don't. Supervising the dying relative is not an easy job, nor is it one you have done before (I gather). Hired help will reassure you as it moves along, be your sounding board and support you in other ways. You might also consider a death doula.
What does it mean "I lost some control over decision making?"
Hospice is typically suggested when a persons doctor feels that they have 6 months or less to live.
Now your mom may still qualify for hospice care, and you can call the hospice of your choice for them to come out and do an assessment, but just remember that 99% of moms care will fall on whoever is responsible for her care.