Father (92) has PEG tube from stroke, wheelchair confined, incontinent (both), but cognitive and alert. Dad was in hospital for a week where they determined he could not swallow without aspirating. So he elected to have a peg tube. Went to rehab, now is still in therapy, but in a LTC bed. We are self-pay. But it is exorbitant. Seeing an attorney tomorrow. He is a veteran, but monthly pension too high for VA benefits. My question is--is he a candidate to move back to his one story condo (where he lived pre-stroke) and get home caregivers? His feeding tube is an issue in that caregivers will not feed so I would have to go to his house every 3 hours for tube feeding. Will a paid caregiver deal with his bowel incontinence (diarrhea) issues? I know Medicare will pay for intermittent skilled nursing and continuance of his physical and speech therapies. Could I get away with a caregiver for 5+ hrs/day and hope he would stay in bed and use the urinal at night? I just don't know what type of care he needs. And am concerned about paying $7500-8000 a month for nursing home. Living with me is not an option. He is a difficult, bossy, stubborn man and would send me to an early grave after my husband divorces me. Please advise. Suggestions on how to make this work are appreciated!