My 78-year old mother has been repeating the same stories on a weekly basis for at least the last 2-3 years but we thought it was because she hates a lull in conversation and just wants to talk.
In the last year, my dad passed away (after she nursed him to the end with bone cancer - very traumatic), I moved her to a retirement village to make friends, her only good friend landed up in hospital and nearly died and then she fell and broke her hip.
Since coming out of hospital 6 weeks ago, she’s been in a frail-care and been diagnosed with vascular dementia. I was advised by a specialist that she now has to remain in frail-care with 24-hour help as her chance of falling again is very high. She is still not walking on her own, hates everything about the frail-care and complains all day to me about the food, people, etc and makes up stories about what’s happening in the home.
So, my question is …… is she not improving - with her walking and memory - because she’s so unhappy in frail-care or is it her brain that is just not letting her walk again properly?
I have so much guilt not looking after her myself but I have young kids and am busy most of the day - she has also become even more difficult (than she used to be) and very demanding and negative. She phones me 10 times a day (even after I’ve visited her) and I’m just exhausted but worried I have her in the wrong place. I worry that whenever I move her she’ll find something wrong and be just as unhappy.