I live in PA and my 99 year old father lives 1 hr away also in PA in his own apartment. I'm having trouble getting him in assisted living. Today he had his 6th fall, he had 2 falls before this in rehab and they sent him home 2 days before thanksgiving. The nurse came the next day to check him and said he should be in a home because he can't get out of bed without help and he can't dress himself. So tell me how I can get him to assisted living? My husband and I are retired, I have my diabetic sister living with us now, she works and tries to help with dad when she can and my other siblings live out of state. None of us have funds to pay for assisted living, my dad has a small pension and SS, he has Medicare and Medicaid. When I spoke with medical staff at rehab about him going to rehab, they said it would cost at least $18,000 a month insurance would not pay for it. All indicators are that the State encourages in-home care by family and aids. He can get aids for 10 hrs a day but there are gaps during the day and evening and that's when he gets into trouble. He also refuses to wear adult diapers which adds to problems since we are constantly cleaning up after him and doing laundry. My grandchild at 3 yrs old doesn't give me this much trouble. I feel stuck, tired, angry, and I want to cry all the time! I have POA but not guardianship of my dad.