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It feels like it’s always about being the parent—mom or dad. But this time, it’s me. I’m the one looking for support and direction because I’m on my own. There’s no one left to say sorry to… I’m older now, and I need help too.
I more--atheist I am--go with the Serenity prayer. That prayer suggests that we must ask for help in accepting what cannot be changed but it ALSO admonishes us to change what can be changed, and finally asks for the wisdom to know the difference.
I am not familiar with radical acceptance. For an instance, we have an OP asking us today how she can handle her hubby with parkinsons, her mom with aging issues, and still work. So if radical acceptance suggests that you have a husband descending into dementia/incontinence/depression, and an elderly mother who needs you while you still must work to support all? Nope.
You can accept that is a FACT, but then you had better get out there and CHANGE what can be changed. Because pure acceptance? Yeah, it will kill you. Then you can accept that death as well, but I do think we are beholden to protect ourselves and those we love, and sometimes to protect ourselves FROM those we love. So I would more say that you need to fight at times, yes, but you need to choose the mountaintop you will die upon, because fighting every little molehill will exhaust you.
Please stick around! Welcome to this Forum. Longer you are here the more advice you will find on taking care of yourself, and ways to do it.
I would start by going up to the top of the blue timeline on AgingCare and using the search bar. Type in "Taking Care of Yourself" and up will pop a mess of questions about that already posted on AC. You will have a long library of reading under such searches as "self-care for caregivers" and so on.
Meanwhile, as I said, stick around. Let us know more about you and your situation and we can try to give hints or clues as to what worked for us, and what might work for you. Again, welcome.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
That prayer suggests that we must ask for help in accepting what cannot be changed but it ALSO admonishes us to change what can be changed, and finally asks for the wisdom to know the difference.
I am not familiar with radical acceptance. For an instance, we have an OP asking us today how she can handle her hubby with parkinsons, her mom with aging issues, and still work. So if radical acceptance suggests that you have a husband descending into dementia/incontinence/depression, and an elderly mother who needs you while you still must work to support all? Nope.
You can accept that is a FACT, but then you had better get out there and CHANGE what can be changed. Because pure acceptance? Yeah, it will kill you. Then you can accept that death as well, but I do think we are beholden to protect ourselves and those we love, and sometimes to protect ourselves FROM those we love. So I would more say that you need to fight at times, yes, but you need to choose the mountaintop you will die upon, because fighting every little molehill will exhaust you.
Welcome to this Forum. Longer you are here the more advice you will find on taking care of yourself, and ways to do it.
I would start by going up to the top of the blue timeline on AgingCare and using the search bar. Type in "Taking Care of Yourself" and up will pop a mess of questions about that already posted on AC. You will have a long library of reading under such searches as "self-care for caregivers" and so on.
Meanwhile, as I said, stick around. Let us know more about you and your situation and we can try to give hints or clues as to what worked for us, and what might work for you.
Again, welcome.