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How do you deal with the traveling plus taking care of their finances and your own things?

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Trap, can you pinpoint which is the exhausting part? Is it the bills, or is the the crises? ( maybe it's both).

You can automate bills, but to get away from the nearly daily OMG, i think you need facility care, or a good geriatric care manager. Is either of those an option?
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OH my, lot's on your plate! Are you working as well or are you retired? Have you looked at making everything as simple as can be? Can you set up auto pay on routine bills? Auto fill on routine meds? etc. My spouse handled everything for a relative that reached 101+. He tried to do it as automatically as possible. (this is often easier said than done!)
Have you tried a caregivers support group? Sometimes it just feels better to know you aren't the only one doing all of this!
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I am taking care of both my parents aged 100 and 96. I live in New York and they live in Florida. They have 24 hr aides that take care of day to day needs. I am taking care of all the finances, any situations that occur on a daily, weekly etc basis. I am in contact with all the therapists and Dr on a regular basis I also take care of all the finances. On top,of all this I still have my own day to day things to deal with. I am very stressed and emotionally spent. Any suggestions or empathy would be quite welcome
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Trapasta, you might get more help if you fill in some details. Who are you giving care to? How old is that person? The relationship to you? Their health situation and age. Distance from you to them? Any other helpers nearer to the person??
~~~On a general basis (and this is clearly my opinion and preference) I believe that seniors need to be nearer family as they age. It just isn't feasible for long distance caregiving if no one is near by. It's bad enough when the relatives that aren't in the area have to fly/drive in for a crisis, but if there is no one that can be nearby . . I feel a move is in order. From my observation, neighbors and friends move on with their own lives as someone needs more care. So the senior is left in a big old house that needs maintenance but the senior is afraid to bring anyone in to do the work.
As to taking care of their stuff and your stuff--- welcome to 'aging care'. You are now paying another set of monthly bills and taxes. If there is property involved, you are maintaining that. You may be hiring caregivers from afar. It is enough to make your head spin. Fortunately, you have come to the right place. Many of us have been through whatever you may face, so there are lot's of ideas here.
** Here is my first: computer search geriatric nurse managers for the person's locale. Call all of them and ask what services they provide. See if that may help in the near or distant future. The ones in my area will do a home assessment, accompany the senior to physician's appointments and report back to you, come in a fill meds each week, etc.
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