My mom has being living in my home with me & my husband. I’ve been caring for her 24/7. She has sundowners. It’s been overwhelming. It’s best I find an assisted living facility for her.
You should have POA but if you don't it's not impossible. Your best bet would be to petition the probate court in your town and apply for conservatorship/guardianship over your mother. This is higher than a POA and it will be easier for you in the long run when it comes to making her financial and heath decisions. Could you hire some outside caregiving to help you out until you get everything squared legally and facility placement is found for her?
Jeweldavis, kudos to you for providing your mom's care for three years in your home. It may not be too late for your mom to give you POA. If she is sometimes lucid enough to understand the purpose and effects of granting POA, then she can still do that if she's willing, but best to have an attorney's help with it, especially if there is anyone who might dispute it. That said, if she is both capable and willing to grant POA, then she can also change her mind and cancel it. So, if she isn't willing to move to a memory care facility, then you might have to petition for legal guardianship. A good place to start exploring your options might be to call your local office on aging and/or health and welfare office to explain the situation and get some suggestions. Best wishes on this difficult journey.
You can try. Get a doctor to say she is incompetent to care for herself and she needs 24/7 care. Are you on her accts, can you pay her bills? If not, u may have to get guardianship and I think u can use her money.
Since you say she has sundowners, that also means that she has some sort of dementia, so unfortunately if someone isn't already moms POA, it is now too late, as she cannot legally assign someone, because of her mental decline. I know you can petition the courts for guardianship, though I know that can be quite costly. With having dementia, she may need more than an assisted living facility, like a memory care facility. Perhaps it's best to talk to your local Area Agency on Aging, and the social workers at the facilities to see what your options are at this point. I wish you the best in getting this all figured out.
Could you hire some outside caregiving to help you out until you get everything squared legally and facility placement is found for her?
I know you can petition the courts for guardianship, though I know that can be quite costly.
With having dementia, she may need more than an assisted living facility, like a memory care facility.
Perhaps it's best to talk to your local Area Agency on Aging, and the social workers at the facilities to see what your options are at this point. I wish you the best in getting this all figured out.