Mom was approved for Medicaid's LTC and we placed her in a memory care facility the day before yesterday.
Here's my fear. When the whole application process started back in August, things were pretty bad as far as her decline in health. She was in the hospital for three days in August and since then has improved by quite a bit. Will the facility, or LTC tell me that Mom doesn't belong in the program because of the progress that she's made? She has been diagnosed with dementia and it was having an impact on her ADLS. I have cPTSD from living with her (as a child and now because she was living with us), and am not sure if that's where this fear is coming from or if it is a legitimate concern.
TL;DR: I'm afraid that Mom's memory care facility or the LTC program will say that she doesn't belong there because of the progress she's made in her ADLs since the application process started.
The memory facility has seen many patients like your mom and will understand what she's going through. She will be evaluated from time to time for all her skills and even how the skills work together. Let them do what they do best while you adjust to mom's living elsewhere and being someone else's problem to solve. Good luck to both you and mom.
You cannot be made to care for her. She will decline. Its inevitable.