My parents still live independently but need care with meals, appts, etc. I have recently put them on a program where some meals are made for them so that relieves some of the stress. I still do a fair bit of cooking, baking, etc. I have a couple of siblings that live nearby (within 30-40) minutes drive. I live 20 minutes drive from my parents. Another sibling lives out of town. I very rarely hear from my siblings - they just assume that since I'm living nearby I can do the work. To complicate matters, they also know that my Dad gives me a bit of money to help cover costs. I was even told my one to just ask my Dad for more money if I think it isn't enough. Honestly, I don't want the money (Dad insists) - I just want support because it is getting too hard emotionally to be on call for them 24/7. I also have my own family and thankfully a hubby that is very supportive.