How do you invoke power of attorney when the aging parent is no longer making sound financial decisions?

I live and take care of my father, he make very bad decisions every day. His with abandoned there marriage and moved out 8 years ago, My father is threatened by his wife, so he sends her money, not court ordered. Now his wife is trying to get my father to kick me & my son out of my fathers house, How can I get power of attorney, and stop his wife from threatening him?

I wish I knew the answer to that. I am in a similar situation, living with and caring for my mother. My brother lives there too, has zero income. I am on a fixed income but manage to take care of many of the household expenses. I do not want anything from my mom, but I want to protect her from her money being pilfered by him. Now she is talking about giving him power of attorney. I worry that if that happens, he will empty out her bank account in no time, and all of us will soon be homeless. What can I do to prevent this from happening?

I have POA for my father... My sister had him make her POA also 2 years later and he is in the beginning stages of Alzheimers. I am trying to set up a bank account so that we have 2 signatures sign everything... She continues to make my Dad think I am going to cut her out of something is the term he uses... His assets are in a trust (rental property) and the only asset he has is rental income. I want it in the bank and two signatures to sign every check... She doesn't... I am so tired of fighting these battles to try and keep everybody accountable.. What do you do?

My siblings and I are in a dilemma, we waited too long to get a POA, Health Directive or Living Will from my sister who is 87 years old with Alzheimers. She lives alone and refuses to accept help "doesn't want anyone in her house". We are looking at Assisted Living/Dementia Unit but need of POA to admit her. Will not sign a will. Has property that needs to be sold to help with her expenses in Assisted Living. How do we get around it?

My mom is 83. She has a Durable Power of Attorney and a Health Care Power Of Attorney where I have been named power of attorney for her since my dad has passed away. This was drawn up in 2003. She is living with me now since my dad passed away in May 2012. She is forgetful about her medicine. She can take it and 15 min later she asks me if she has taken it. She becomes very agitated and unreasonable about simple things. She acts like a 3 year old and wants my undivided attention. Therefore, my husband gets bad comments from her if I show him attention before her. I can't get her to bath. She says she washes herself and washes her hair in the sink. How do I invoke this power of attorney? I'm not sure what circumstances are needed before I invoke the power of attorney.

You need POA and DPOA. If the parent has already done this; get a copy for your records. Try to get info on all their accounts, banks, CDs, bills, etc. so that you have in time of need (they start forgetting to pay bills, etc.). If the POA/DPOA kicks in if person becomes incompetant; - then you should contact originating attorney and discuss next steps - He can help you decipher what your power is.

if a parent has begining stages of dementia, but not being diagnosed with it, and living with a sibling who is stealing her blind what king of power does the othe sibling have who has poa and lives in another state

I'm 73,very healthy and a retired RN, BSN, MPH.

my single 75 year olds friend would like to invoke the poa from her nieces who put her in a rehab center while she is still able to manage her daily living with diabetes and hypertension under controlled.

Do you have a sample/document for invoking the power of attorney?

PATIENT IN HOSPITAL - WIFE 23 YEARS POA DID NOT INVOKE- YET DOCTORS SIGNED 2 INCOMPETENT - WENT TO COURTS FOR GUARDIANSHIP?

How do I get a legal POA to begin with? Do I need a doctor's recommendation and a lawyer?

You need a POA for both medical & financial. I have both & took the original to the bank to add my name to my dad's accounts. My sister has access to view my dad's accounts & criticizes the $$ I spend for him. My dad lives with us & my sister is jealous that I have POA. I only communicate with her about my dad & that is done thru email & text only, so I have written proof of what is said. I do keep her updated on his health & send her pictures daily. My dad did the same things you are talking about. He bought a mobile home, paid too much & ending up losing several thousand $$. Perhaps she should no longer live alone & was bored when she bought the cream. If she moves in with you & she can afford it, you deserve compensation. That doesn't mean you lover her any less. Good luck! Did the cream work? I could use some :)

What kind of power of attorney do I need for my mother to sign for me to be able to sign and make all decisions.

my wife's father was poa of his parents. he passed away and in his parents will. it states that my wife take the agent roll of poa. her cousins know about the will but havent told her anything. they had the grandparents go to lawyer to sign papers. which they dont know what it was for, they go back in couple of days to finalize. the last up date in the will was august of 2009. what can she do.

Did the Power of Attorney your Mom signed take effect immediately, or does it take effect on your Mom's incapacity? The document will state one or the other. if it took place immediately, you can submit it to any banks or institution as proof you have the right to act for her. If it takes effect on her incapacity, you would need to have her declared legally incapacitated in order to act on her behalf. But this is a serious action that can have other consequences, so before you do it, you'll need to consider what other documents may be in play. Does your mother have a living trust? A living trust will specify a Successor Trustee that steps in if she is incapacitated. If it's not you, you'll want to coordinate with that person beforehand. Also, does she have a Medical power of attorney (Advance Health Care Directive)? Who is named to act for her for medical decisions? In any case, I recommend speaking to an estate planning attorney about this.

About the contention with your sister: It is very common that siblings have some sort of tension between them in these situations. When it's our parents well-being, we're dealing with, a lot of emotions come into play. Recognize that and come to a meeting of the minds with her (and any other siblings). Agree to share with each other whatever conversations each of you has had with your Mom. Second-hand information can be dangerously misleading. It will be best for your Mom if you two are united and there is a minimum of stressful contention.

If you are the person named in all the legal documents, and you have authority to act, then you can take the lead. I recommend discussing your decisions with your sister beforehand, and where possible, meet with her and your Mom regularly to discuss what's going on. Keeping things out in the open will be healthiest for everyone. A book to read and share is: "They're My Parents Too" by Francine Russo.