My mother has started having incontinence problems and I'm thinking I need to introduce her to adult diapers. How do I do that? Mother is 87 years old and is living in AL. Her dementia has progressed this past year and I'm afraid that she just doesn't remember to "go" until it is too late. She understands that she needs to change her soiled or wet underpants, but she just refuses to use her pads or Depends that we've left out for her. Do you have any suggestions?