I think it may be past time for me to put my Mother in Assisted Living. She's in Adult Day Care everyday but this has become a challenge getting her there.and the nights with her a re very long. They have a criteria at the Day Care and I think we may be stretching it now. She is very dependent on me and it is getting on my nerves, which I know sounds very selfish , but I can't ignore my feelings. Also , because we can't leave her alone it is becoming increasingly more difficult. I want to be considerate of all my family and I think this is may be the
only answer.
I thought I would take her for respite care for about two weeks to see if this is a program she can adjust to and if the care is at level I would hope.
The day care providers have suggested I take this approach.
Any thought out there?

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What you also might do is look a respire week at a "tiered" facility - ones that go from IL, AL to NH & hospice that also have a rehab unit or floor. At 96 you don't want to go thorough a whole new move a second time.

She may need placement in community based LTC within a NH. It still will be considered skilled nursing but won't be quite as much $$ as a highly skilled nursing would be. It's all expensive but one would be $ 4K a mo and the other $ 7 - 8K a month. Huge difference.

Personally I would do a 1 week respite care because if the place isn't a good "fit" for her you will need to do another 1 week try out at another place.

As Lili said, the mobility issue will be a big factor in all this.
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If she is no longer a candidate for day care she may not be able to function at an ALF. Their services are minimal. They usually include meals (they have to get to the dining area), housekeeping, transportation to appts., and activities. Personal care is usually extra. The best thing to do is to make appts. and go by yourself at first. Come armed with a list of questions based on your mother's needs. Remember that the first people you meet are sales people. They will promise you everything - ask if they will put it in writing. Your biggest challenge may be her mobility issues and getting medical care. Some places have in-house nursing and doctors...most don't. She may need another setting such as a nursing home or a hybrid of an ALF and NH especially if she has dementia. Ask if they have a memory care wing.
One other thing to consider is an ALF setting and hiring addtional care to meet her needs.
Without knowing more about her mobility and health issues it is hard to say which would work best for her.
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