I suspect my father's wife is being verbally abusive, if not somewhat physically abusive to him also. The nurse at the retirement apartment where they live suggested installing a hidden camera, I had the same advice from my personal counselor. I am his DPOA, his ALZ is moderate stage. In talking with my husband we are in agreement that it probably should be done, but are concerned about how to do it without causing her to become more angry. She contends that she can care for him by herself, but the last two times I have been with him in the past two weeks, his hair wasn't combed (also BAD haircut, hadn't trimmed his eyebrows,ear hair or nose hair) which is highly unusual for him as he has always been immaculately groomed. She also never lets him go anywhere with me alone, always insists on coming along. This is a short term marriage-4 years.