Mom is 98, lives with my husband and me, is still physically robust, except for bad knees, and has dementia. Her dementia is likely LBD but could be vascular -- not Alzheimer's. She is easygoing and grateful for help, has episodes of incontinence which show up when she forgets to wear Depends or takes them off and leaves them beside her bed. She gets confused easily -- forgets where her bathroom is, etc., but is easily guided. She is only on one medication--5mg of Namenda each night--and it has worked for 8 years now to stop hallucinations and anxiety for the most part. She sleeps either in bed or dozing in her recliner A LOT -- I'd say up to 18-20 hours out of 24. I wonder if some of that is sheer boredom (my husband and I are 68 and 74 and not all that stimulating and exciting to be around), but have also read that it is one of the ways people prepare for death. So ... I'm wondering about your insights into the ups and downs of my bold plan, which follows: Her other daughters are in Albuquerque and she lived there for several years. She lived there with my youngest sister for 8 years or so before she began to deteriorate, and her place is very familiar. So I'm considering loading her into my car and taking off on a road trip -- just the two of us or perhaps including my husband or my other sister -- to Albuquerque. We would just take our time, stop for ice cream periodically, etc. The car is comfortable. The seat reclines. And it may be the last opportunity for her to visit those daughters and grandchildren -- sort of a family reunion thing. We would stay at my sister's place where things are known to her. Most days, I think it would perk her up. Some days I wonder if I've lost my mind to even consider it. It's about a 10-11 hour drive straight through, so with stops it would probably include at least one overnight in a hotel, but we might be able to instead arrange a visit to the town she raised us in on the way. I considered flying, but last time we tried that, the downsides outweighed the ups. I suspect this may be a trip I'm doing more for me than for her. Even on short jaunts, by the time we get home, she doesn't even remember going. But she seems to enjoy the moment when we do something special. I realize this is a lot of information, but I could really use some clear heads on this. Do you see mostly possibilities for something good for Mom (when I mentioned it to her, she thought it would be nice, but of course she doesn't remember that from day to day)? Or do you cringe at the probability of an impending disaster? Or better yet, do you have some concrete ideas for the best way to ensure a positive experience? Thanks for your thoughts.