Inheritance vs caregiving costs vs spouse.

Thanks for your response and if it is ok, I will use this spot to add a few details for all of the responses for which I am grateful. Wife’s will was done years ago before our marriage when her daughter was the only apparent heir. However she did update it just a few years ago but kept daughter as only heir. She quit work when we married as my job paid a lot and we could afford it. I paid all of the house expenses, all trips to Europe, all car insurance, etc. Also took a reduced pension so she would continue to receive all pension funds for her lifetime. Enough expensive jewelry to buy a new car. Its all been worth it as she has been the love of my life for thirteen years, The bulk of her funds came when her father died and left all three children a little over a $1m, much to their amazement (he had inherited most of that himself from an aunt). No prenuptial agreement was done- i would have been ok if she had everything when I died or at least half of it to leave my son something. Fortunately as many of you have noted, so far everyone in her family has recognized that these funds should be used for her care. We are working with her attorney on revising the will and POA to implement that with the legal provision that daughter will remain the sole heir to any remaining funds. I suppose that I was just disappointed that I was going to get nothing at all - seems like it was just going to be a slap in the face- maybe she wasn’t/ isn’t that happy after all. You don’t have to read very far in this website to understand that being disappointed is the absolute least problem for most, We are just starting our journey down this path so the real pain is coming and this is just my first post . Many thanks for all the kind and helpful responses. Many thanks also to those who justifiably wanted to kick my butt but showed restraint instead (or did the site administer delete those :). Very grateful for this site and community.