I am new to the forum. My mother is about to come out of rehab following a fall, which has left her paraplegic, health issues with her lungs and a diagnosis of onset dementia/Alzheimer. She lives alone and wants to stay there. She has money for a few months but then would have to go onto a state program. We would like her to go to a home as her choices of homes are much better if she enters as paying for 6 months then switch to the state program.
She has decided that she wants a friend, who is 81, to stay with her at night and his daughter, who we do not know, to do her care during the day. This friend has been known in the past to try to get and sometimes get my mother to give him money and also invest in schemes such as investing in Iraqi Dinars and against her family advice. Let's just say we do not trust the friend and we have no details of the daughter, who supposedly is a carer.
What information do we need from them. They want to charge her $12 an hour. My mother has not been declared incompetent. Do we have to set up insurance? Any advice for a contract? Get their Social Security number? What happens if the 80 year old is injured etc.
The problem is made worse as I live out of country and my two sisters have differing opinions. One thinks we should just let her do whatever she wants and she'll have to live with the consequences. The other thinks we need to take control and it appears I may have to be the final decision maker. Thanks for any help you can give.