Does anyone have any information about using respite care for parents while we take a much needed vacation?

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My mother has ALZ and father can't drive anymore and mild memory loss. They moved in with us and after a while now we are looking for respite care for a week or so. Has anyone had any experience with this and who we could contact

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Thank you for all the suggestions. The money is not a problem so the only thing we have is my wife doesn't want someone staying in our house without us there.
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Have you thought of using a home care agency like brighstar or visiting angels? If they have long term care insurance, that will cover some of the cost. If only it might run about 200 a day. It's expensive. That's why so many of us care for our parents the way we do.
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If you look Google respite care and your area, it should pull up any agencies that offer this service. I found a great one that O wanted to try. The manager came out and gave me info etc. But it wasn't covered by Mom's insurance or medicare. Ironically, medicaid does. Mom does not qualify. So, simply could not afford it out of pocket. Hopefully, you can and will get much needed break. I hope you do...you deserve it for sure. I try to get my siblings to understand how much better a person can provide care when they are able to get away and recharge their batteries.
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My brother and I had done research into Assisted Living for my mother who has refused to go. However, while repairs were being done at her condo complex she was convinced to go to one of the places we had visited and actually had chosen for her when the options are reduced to that. We originally planned for a 2-week stay but ended up keeping her there for 30 days: we were allowed to pay for the 30 days in advance in hopes of her staying there forever. The cost was about one third less than the daily respite rate. We were assured any difference would have been refunded had her stay been less than the 30 days.
The apartment was identical to the others in the AL, only fully furnished; she got all the same attention as a regular resident for her meds, meals, cleaning, etc. We truly got a break from worrying about how she was cared for as we had great confidence in the facility and staff from our contact with them.
The costs may be greater depending on the amount of help your loved one needs but will truly be worth the break for you. Also think the costs at a facility are less than having someone come into the home (definitely true for our case.)
Be prepared to pay for this service and evaluate carefully whether what you choose meets the needs of those for whom you care. We also had to fill out the same extensive documents (i.e. doctor's request, medical/lifestyle/preference questionnaires, medicine needs, etc.) as if she were moving there permanently.
Good luck and do this for your own health and well-being if possible. Everyone will benefit in the long run.
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This is a good question because I'm in the same situation myself. My MIL has last stage ALZ and my FIL just got out of the hospital after six weeks due to a disk infection. He is not very mobile and my MIL is is having mobility and balance problems now. We cannot leave them alone ever. I have started the "work of mouth" search right now hoping that someone will know someone who can stay here at our home with them for a week. My husband will be having hernia surgery in a couple of weeks and that will be three adults I'm caring for. After that time I am going to NEED to get away. Hope I can find someone before that time. Good luck in you search.
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Our one local nursing home offers this service though we have yet to use it. My mother does go there for daycare on the weekends though. My best advice would be to call around and ask the local nursing homes if they offer that service, good luck : )
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