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My 78 yo husband has Lewy body Dementia and beginning Parkinsons. He has been using Depends for about 6 months now with fecal incontinence but now he walks across the house peeing --- and not just a few drops, but the entire amount. In his Depends, which soil his clothes, and carpet and puddles in the kitchen. He was attempting to cook, which is something else he should not do. He knows he's peed...I asked him to please try to do it in the toilet in the future, but I'm not quite sure what to do. Thoughts please?

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We put my mother on the commode every two hours during the day. We use depends pull ups with a pad insert, which absorbs the urine and keeps her dry. At night, depends with tabs works well with insert, I find less soiling her clothes during day and night. Hope things get better!
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On top of having a "pee" schedule you might need to put a pad(they make them for men) inside his Depends to soak up more of the urine. I did that with my husband and that worked great for a while. Eventually with my husband having to get up every hour on the hour to pee, and neither of us getting any sleep, we first tried having botox put in his bladder(which has been proven to help some people not to pee so much), and when that didn't help, we opted to have a supra pubic catheter put in, so we both could get rest, and my husband didn't have to get up as much as he was a fall risk. He's now bedridde and having the permanent catheter sure makes my life a whole lot easier as all I have to do is empty the bag twice a day. Best wishes.
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They took my Mom every 2 hrs. My GFs husband has Parkinson's and she takes him every two hours. You really can't expect him to do this on his own. His Dementia makes it impossible.
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I agree with cwillie, go for a bathroom schedule. Think about his typical daily schedule - gets up at 8, has breakfast, showers and dresses, potters about, lunch at 1, nap, tv etc etc, just for example. Then you identify the most logical times and start there, e.g.

on getting up
after breakfast, before shower
mid-morning
before lunch
after lunch
after nap
an hour before supper
after supper
before bed

which looks like an awful lot, now that I've typed it out, but this is just to start. Once you've got the hang of his per routine, you'll know more accurately when it's likely to be worth the trouble.

It sounds as if you're past the stage of asking him or "reminding" him. It will be quicker, clearer for him (which is important), and more likely to work if you tell him that it's time to go to the bathroom and take him there. If he refuses, you don't insist; but you'll probably find that he doesn't refuse, it's just that it wouldn't have occurred to him on his own.
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You mean the Depends are not holding the urine? Are you using the most absorbent type? There are other brands which may be more absorbent, or he may just need to make sure he has himself tucked in properly. It may also be helpful to schedule bathroom breaks periodically through the day even if he doesn't have an awareness of the need to go, I always figured that every successful use of the toilet was one less cleanup later.
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