My in-laws are in no condition to travel. My MIL has a neurodegenerative illness, is wheelchair bound, and needs help with all her activities of daily living. My FIL has anxiety, depression and ataxia.
My in-laws have a little cabin in the woods and they want to go there for the summer. The cabin is not ADA accessible. The bathroom is cramped even for someone able bodied. And it's isolated.
They keep bringing it up with me and my husband. They haven't asked for helped outright but they keep making comments like "how do we rent a car at the airport?" or "how do we get the cable turned on?" I believe they ask these inane questions in the hopes that my husband and I will take it upon ourselves to make it possible for them to go to the cabin.
My husband and I believe it's a terrible idea for them to go to the cabin. But, my in-laws know how to manipulate my husband. I refuse to travel with my in-laws because MIL should not be away from home for more than a few hours let alone a half day's worth of travel.
So do we ignore them (they can't get it done without lots of help) or take it seriously and call a family meeting? If they leave indy living, they both will decline fast. It's crossed my mind that they may have given up.