In home caregiver assistance help, what should she pay me?

I am a senior caregiver. I work for 2 agencies 1 on hold due to caring for an aunt that really burnt me out. I charge at least 14 per hour if I do independent work. The agencies charge 29 to 30 per hour of which I make 12 per hour. However the aunt I cared for we were able to get her on Medicaid and to stay in her home and I only got 10 per hour, minus taxes etc and they only covered 6 hours max per day. We tried another caregiver to help but she was extremely unreliable. I took over full care 2 weeks straight 24/7 and gave up my life. I have siblings who couldn't be of assistance. This was my Dad's sister. She never had kids nor did her partially disabled sister. So she ended up in a skilled nursing Medicaid bed near my house. Her income except for 50 per month pays that. I had taken care of my Mom 1 1/2 years for free in my home. None of 6 siblings assisted other than a few visits and bringing special coffee or treats. My husband and I did the work with me on nights part time and he worked days. Great husband to be there when I needed sleep. So anyway zero pay for that. It takes a LOT to be a full-time caregiver. I just turned 60 last month. I suffer from Migraine and depression and was still able to do what I did for relatives. For private and agencies it has been fulfilling but exhausting because caregivers just do not get paid what we really truly deserve. We give our time and energy out of a desire of our own because we love and have compassion and empathy for those that need our assistance. Overall, kuddos to what you're doing and whatever your sister wants to give to help out if she can afford then I would accept. If you can continue physically and emotionally you deserve it but you definitely need to take care of yourself. I praise you for what you've done so far. I've been called an Angel as I am an employee of Visiting Angel's and I believe you are an Angel too. I wish that the rest of the family would be more supportive of you both in more ways than one. Bless you and take care.

what about asking her to pay for additional help so you can have time to have more of a life... that sounds like what you really want... more time for yourself... so let her put her money toward outside help to give you what you truly want

She should either be paying for more help so that you can have more of a life. She could be pay a couple hundred dollars a month.

Peggy, your sister should be paying for her room and board as a share of costs. This includes all utilities, food, insurance, auto expenses, property taxes, etc. Handling it as share of costs makes it non taxable for you. If she pays you as a caregiver, it is income and needs to be paid as a payroll and all that entails. Not a good solution.

I think that you should help her spend ALL of her money on her care, her kids don't deserve a penny from her.

Figure out what she has and use the balance monthly, after she pays her fair share to you for living expenses, to hire aids to come in and give you a break. If she can afford it, hire a housekeeper as well, nothing wrong with her paying to have necessary work done.

Best of luck getting this dealt with and finding a way for you to have fulfillment for your well being.