My parents have been together for twenty-six years. There is a seventeen year age gap between them. My biological father left around the time I was born, so he raised me as his own since he met my mom when I was 3. I have no biological siblings. My dad had children from a previous marriage, but they are not close with him due to the complications between him and their mother. My dad had always financially supported our family (the 3 of us) my whole life. Occasionally, mom would have a part-time job but eventually both of them became disabled and could no longer work. My mom became addicted to opiates from her back pain (28 pills a day) and resorted to buying and selling pills illegally to meet that quota. We were broke all the time because the income was spent on cigarettes (my mother is a chronic chain smoker) and pills. Around this time, their marriage hit the rocks and my dad started to resent her because she did not want help. Over time, they became more like friends or roommates than husband and wife. Eventually, my mom confessed to her doctor who put her on Suboxone and it has been managing her pain for the last two years. Additionally around the same time, my mom had a midlife crisis. I think she realized in her now semi-sober mind that she was getting older, and saw exactly how much older and sicker he was now in comparison. She was 56 and he was 73 at the time and newly diagnosed with Full Body Inclusive Myositis. Due to odd behavior, I checked her email account to find she was cheating on my dad with some online boyfriend. It was devastating. I confronted her and told her she must tell dad but she dragged her feet. I ended up telling my dad, and as expected, things didn’t go over well. They eventually “agreed to try to make it work” but she ended up leaving one day and went to go see her boyfriend, not telling us she had left. I spent every day with my dad for over a week, who was drinking himself almost to death over all of it. At this point, his disease was beginning to wreak havoc on his body. Everything was hard for him-walking, eating, even daily tasks like brushing his hair. He needed help with everything and was prone to falling. When she got home, she told him she wanted a divorce (which either of them have yet to file for). In despite of that fact, due to financial reasons, they have continued to live together until recently when my nana passed away. Nana left her money in which my mom bought a house 5 hours away to be closer to the boyfriend she met online. She is moving tomorrow. She cares only about starting her new life with him, and doesn't care how this is hurting my dad or I. My mom is paying half of the rent at their current apartment until October when she plans on returning to get the rest of her belongings out of the apartment. She sees this as "helping him" when in reality she is just extremely eager to start her new life. She refuses to help financially with getting my dad a place closer to where I live so I can take care of him. I am a newlywed in my late 20's and a full-time college student with a part time job. I have no idea what resources are out there for someone in his position. He has health insurance, but as far as housing goes I don't know what to do. My husband and I live in a second floor one bedroom apartment one hour away in Santa Cruz. He is in a wheelchair now, therefore he can't do the stairs. I am the part-time assistant manager for the property I live on, which consists of an RV Park and two apartment units. My idea is for my dad to finance a handicap accessible RV in which he can make monthly payments on. The space rent is discounted to 1100 a month, but he can't make both the RV and space rent payments. My husband works full time at a hotel and pays all of our bills, so we are not able to help him financially. Dad is getting worse and I don't know what to do. I can't live with him full-time in San Jose or commute every day. However, he can't live alone with no help!