In case of a fire, could you get your bedridden client/family member out of the house on your own?

Stacy's answer is really the most correct.

Unless you are absolutely 100% sure you can get someone out of a burning building, the best thing you can do is exit yourself and call 911. If you fumble trying to get someone out whom you ultimately can't move, you 1) make the situation exponentially worse for the responders, because now you will be someone else who will need to be rescued and 2) you are not available to tell the responders where, exactly, the person is who needs to be rescued, which saves priceless seconds in a rescue operation. Trying to move an immobile adult is different from scooping up an infant or a child. This might sound harsh, but it's far easier to rescue 1 person than to rescue 2. It's the same reason why, when you ride on a plane, you're instructed to "put on your own mask before you try and help someone else put on theirs".

As far as this nurse is concerned: I understand she's a mandated reporter. I was, too. But exactly what does she think APS will say in this situation? If they start removing every immobile senior citizen from their homes based on the metric of "how will they get out in case of a fire?", we're going to need way, way more senior facilities than actually exist. It always amazes me when we, as caregivers doing our level best in extremely difficult circumstances, are threatened. So, you call APS, and then what? I get into trouble, and you don't allow me to take care of this person? And then what happens to my LO after that? Maybe fewer threats and more suggestions on what we can LEGITIMATELY do to make things better might be more helpful to everyone, especially the person needing care.

You don't mention your father's weight. But the truth is we can never know WHO we could save in a fire and who we could not. It all depends upon location of a fire. Often the opening of a door, the O2 that comes into a room explodes a fire. Depends on construction of the home, a multitude of other things. Best thing to do is
Research on internet: How to save people in a fire. There are many things you need to know. Where to have smoke alarms, how to treat doors and windows, how to crawl close to floor, how to take the sheets of a bedbound person and lower them, and drag them to window or door. Of course ALL this after 911, active fire call.
So educate yourself. And do know that whether we can save ANYONE from a fire is up for grabs. We can but be prepared. You would have trouble in earthquakes, hurricanes and floods, after all.
We should all think in terms of preparedness. I live in California. The media is on about it constantly. So you are thinking worst case screnario. Think it, research it, be as prepared for it, and then know we are in not in control of as much in life as we think we are, and move on with your dad.
As to what this nurse said, it sounds a tad silly on the face of it as you explain it. I can't imagine WHAT she's talking about.

Yes I would have been able to get my Husband out of the house safely by myself in an emergency.
I have a ramp at the back door that has a French door so I would have been able to get a bed, wheelchair, Hoyer Lift out and down the ramp.
I have a ramp in the garage and one at the front of the house so I would have been able to get a wheelchair or Hoyer lift out.
I would NOT have been able to get him to the basement in a tornado but the handicap bathroom has no windows and the closet in the Main bedroom has no windows. Those would have been places I could have taken him for shelter.

I have to ask why you resist the help of Hospice.
With Hospice you would have the equipment that you would need to safely get him out of the house.
You would also get help in the way of a CNA that would come a few times a week, a Nurse that would come once a week. Either of these would come as often as needed if he needed more.
I would not have been able to care for my Husband the way I was able to with out the help and support I got from Hospice. He was on Hospice a bit over 3 years so if the fear is that "Hospice will kill or shorten the life" that can not be further from the truth.

Getting back to your fear.
Let the Fire Department know that you have a disabled adult in the house. Let them know that he is "bed bound" so that they are aware of that in advance. You might even consider allowing them to place an emergency Lock Box so that they can get in in an emergency.

No. My 110 pound MIL once fell on me while I was trying to transfer her out of the car and took us both down. I cannot imagine trying to move a bedridden person any significant distance and in an emergency no less.

Let your fire department know that your dad lives in the walkout basement. Put extra fire extinguishers around.

Maybe get a gait belt so that you can quickly strap it around him and pull him up and into a wheelchair to get him out after having called 911 first. And if he becomes violent, you must save yourself and leave him behind so that when firefighters arrive they can get him.

Of course it is! First question is where did this home nurse come from? No one being a caregiver needs to be lectured. I'd be dismissing her, and as disappointed as I am with the hospice services my mother is currently receiving, I might consider that option, if it is appropriate.
As much as we want to, we can't control everything, and you know what happens. SO you do what you can. Our fire dept has a fire prevention specialist. If you call, they can probably come out and do an inspection to tell you what you can do to make things as safe as possible. For one thing, here, we have been able to rent from the city fire dept a knox box, which they installed on the house. Inside are keys for the house so they can gain easy access in any emergency. They are the only ones with a key to open the box.
At one point I learned about Federal Pacific fuse boxes and the dangers they present in regard to fire. It cost about $2K to replace (we had two boxes) but that diminished our fire risk. And then you pray, and you be grateful for the city services and their quick response because that's their job...to get us out in an emergency. Right now my mom is in hospice, and in a hospital bed in our family room which has direct access to outside through a patio door. I haveno idea if I'd be strong enough to push her out in the bed. You raise a good point. But look, even if someone were in a staffed facility, there is risk. There may be a plan to evacuate, but will they in that moment be staffed adequately? Dump the nurse and contact the fire dept. IF that witch does contact DSAS, you will be prepared with already having a plan and taking action to do the best you can, which is all any of us can do.

The nurse, from your description, appears to have wanted 'off the case' from Day One. This is NOT someone you want in a situation in which you need help. It's the health care equivalent of the real estate agent or attorney who tells you, 'I wish you hadn't told me that', when you provide vital information. They put their own interests above yours. This nurse threatened you, using her status as mandated reporter as a cudgel. She could have used a far more constructive approach but she clearly didn't want to. She should not be in that job. If you can, get rid of her ASAP. And if the entity who sent her resists, get rid of that entity, if you can.

Your home nurse lectured you for trying to come up with a fire escape plan? Sorry but fire that person. You have to have people around that are positive & kind to both you and your parent. Planning & brainstorming included. It’s hard what we are doing. We’re sacrificing a lot in our own lives & trying to learn & adapt to everything happening with our parent. There are so many different types of agencies that can help. You can enlist a good hospice team, a private out of pocket home health care agency, hire background checked health aides off care.com, etc etc. If you feel uncomfortable with any of them, get new people until you have the right team of caring, helpful people in place. You owe it to yourself & your loved one.

That nurse sounds like a useless piece of work with a "license." What exactly was this "specialist" appointment she insisted he needed? Why would she not suggest either TeleHealth or a visiting doctor first? Your dad isn't the only homebound person out there! While maybe he *could* get up/out if he so desired, that isn't the point.

Honestly, I decided I would not provide the care my mother needed, either in her home or mine, mostly due to her weight. I have physical limitations AND she outweighed me by at least 20-25 pounds. If she lost her balance and fell on me, we'd both be in a world of hurt! My place would not have worked as she really had trouble with stairs, and it's a full flight to get in/out, no real way to handicap the stairs OR the bathrooms (both tiny!) Her condo wasn't much better. The front entrance was a couple of steps and the only other entrance/exit was in the finished basement area. Her stairs were worse than mine - I hated those (sad since it's a 55+ community.)

One place we checked out for MC was located on the second floor - I wondered to myself how they would ever get all those residents out, since you can't use the elevator and many used walkers, wheelchairs or were bed-ridden. I was not impressed with any part of that place, but that was a scary thought!

The place she ended up in was ground level and had special fire doors, so they would, during tests, gather them all into those areas (we were there with mom's birthday cake and ice cream at the time!) There were several ways they could get the residents out, with no need for ramps or elevators.

Just voicing your concern about what you would do in case of fire should have prompted her to make suggestions OR find out what services and/or equipment might be available for you. Suggesting, as many here did, contacting the FD to report a vulnerable person and getting their input would be better than threatening you with APS. What purpose does that serve?

If a nurse coming to my house had been that rude and nasty, I would have contacted whoever she worked for and directed them to send someone else, never that one! I had home nurse services after a lengthy hospital stay and they were ALL wonderful. That one you dealt with needs a serious attitude adjustment.

Generally the doctor would order the home services. Can you request they change agencies? I wouldn't want that "B" to set foot in my house again.

NOTE:
What is the oath for nurses?
"I solemnly pledge myself before God and in the presence of this assembly: To pass my life in purity and to practice my profession faithfully. I will abstain from whatever is deleterious and mischievous, and will not take or knowingly administer any harmful drug."

PSHAW on that nurse!

My husband was completely bedridden for the last 22 months of his life, and there would have been no way for me to get him out of our house had there been a fire. Someone in my caregivers support group recommended that I let let the fire dept. know about my husband, so I called the fire dept. nearest to our home, and let them know. I was told that they would make note of it. You may want to try that.
They used to have stickers that you could put on your windows, to alert the fire dept. of a child, pet or invalid in the house, but I believe they have discontinued those because people would move and the stickers would stay behind, and the fire dept. in some cases ended up wasting time looking for someone who was no longer there.
You are not alone in your concern, and you shouldn't be threatened when you voice your concern. Instead the nurse should have offered some suggestions as to what you should do in such a case.

The RN is a mandated reporter, like a teacher would be. As such, if she can tell that there is an issue in the care plan or in the actual care of the individual, she is required to report her concerns to an authority. For your situation it would be APS aka Adult Protective Services.

It sounds like she has been trying to make you aware of the issues in your dads care plan and is trying to forewarn you that if things continue as they are, that she will have no choice but to report it, to notify APS.

It’s not a threat; she’s giving you a warning.
For whatever reasons, you - as his daughter - are unable to stand back and do a reality check on how tenuous your fathers situation is….. which you describe as he’s bedfast, unable to transition, violent and refuses to see a physician. She knows he will be eligible for hospice….. hospice means additional caregivers come in 2-3 maybe 4 times a week and help in bathing, hygiene, monitoring any skin pressure / wound care issue, medication management, etc. Plus being in any durable medical equipment (DME) needed, Having him go onto hospice also smooths the way for the live in family caregiver to request and get respite care, so that you yourself get a break. All totally a MediCARE benefit.

Why are you refusing to have him evaluated 4 & placed on hospice?