The home nurse was here last night and she wanted me to make a specialist appt for my dad. I explained that he’s refused (violently at times, I’ve tried paid caregivers, bribes, tough love, etc) to get out of bed so long that I don’t think he is capable of making the transitions needed to get to the dr. And I added that I was starting to worry about what I’d do in case of fire.
She immediately launched into a 20 minute lecture about how I can’t say things like that and that if that’s true she has to report to DSS and dismiss him from their services, etc. She’s been trying to stop caring for him since the beginning (really pushes hospice EVERY VISIT) so I am expecting fallback from this statement shortly.
But I can’t be the only person caring for someone with mobility issues who worries about what they would do in a fire. Maybe my mistake was saying it out loud, but is this a concern for anyone else?