In 2007 I left my job to care for my father. 2012 I moved in with mom to care for her. Now she's 96. Any advice?
She has dementia though is fine at times. I was never her favorite since a toddler but I could always be counted on even knowing how she never cared. This is partly my promise I made to my father that I will care for her if he was gone. She never has a nice thing to say about me. Luckily she can still walk, go to the bathroom & bath herself. Because of her greed of money she made a reverse mortgage she & my father didn't need. He didn't want her to get it either, they had more than enough. Mom has an 8th grade education, self taught herself things to get a job, which was great BUT Spent a lot of the money on the ones who left her alone at nights to care for my bedridden father at nights, she then was 90 yrs old. Money was her power to get the other greedy one to do as she says. Till today she still wants more, why?? she doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything. It's just to give away but not to me to the greedy ones that just took not give. And they are all Adults! I can go on and on! As soon as she says something mean or something they don't like, they leave. I been said things to and have heard her say she never liked "that one" meaning Me. But I'm still here. I work Full Time so my son cares for her during the day, then come home to cook for her & serve her. Those other didn't do that, she cooked for them. She's very picky with food and waste a lot of it and money. Everything we buy to eat has to be what she wants partly because of her bad teeth/dentures. I'm so disgusted, hurt and feel my life is just wasting away at times. She collects S. Security & my father's pension. I asked the person at the Pension office if after she is gone can I collect his pension & the answer was No. In order to keep this House I will need to pay the reverse mortgage. I'm divorced (ex left for the younger after 30 yrs) my family doesn't care or want to be involved (unless they get something out of it). I'll be turning 65 soon, I can't retire as I can't live on what I'll get w/S. Security Any advise?