We live with and care for my MIL who has multiple myeloma that has caused alarming dementia and loss of short term memory over the past two months to the point she has about 30 second retention at this point. We live in the suite in her two-level home to care for her. We cannot get her focussed to write any cheques to pay bills or do any bookkeeping, even with my husband's help, who is a (management accountant!) and we have spent into the thousands of dollars of our own money in the two months because of with no remuneration as we had to replace her dishwasher and purchase her a new mattress in addition to ordinary expenses that we have not been reimbursed for. There is an existing Enduring Power of Attorney that my husband and his brother are named on, which he is in possession of. I am wondering how we bring it into effect. She is still lucid and understands things, you just can't get her to attend to them nor does she remember 30 seconds after you have asked her to do it that you have asked her.