I have an uncle, my mom’s youngest brother, whom she’s always been very attached to. Jim was born during a bad time in mom’s family of origin, and so ultimately, mom was keeping house at age 13 while my Mamaw rode the bus before dawn into the nearest town, to work as a nurse to support the family. Grandpa had run away with a woman he met during WWII. So that is to explain the depth of mom’s feelings for Jim. He is her little brother/child with commiserate love attached. Since mom’s dementia has gotten worse he and his Spaniard wife have stirred the pot! They normally live in the US for six months and Madrid for six months. This last visit lasted 8 months. Jim was determined my mother did not have dementia. My father was an abusive fiend, I was overreacting, etc. Some of Jim’s ideas could come from a paranoid delusion from mom (or maybe some way true because my mom was staying on the phone calling everyone she knew in town and telling them her stories, real to her at the time (she hadn’t been assessed mentally yet or put on meds.) Jim & spouse NEVER came to the house to see mom and they live ten miles from my parents house. Just that continual phone talk. The day before mom went to the geriatric center to be assessed, while I was traveling to my parents house, Jim and spouse came and took mom out for 6 hours. An hour of that was lunch but what were they up to? My mother was in no shape to be traipsing around! All three have been ‘close mouthed’ (mom might have just forgot). I can’t help but think they had gone to see a lawyer about a big piece of land my mom owns. I have mom’s last known will and it’s old, she leaves this land to me and HER mom. Jim has had a secret life in Europe and is wealthy. The wealthy many times have no other purpose than to get wealthier. My own lawyer said it only takes one crooked lawyer to agree to play along. Jim wants that land very badly!! Any ideas?