I have posted here before and have found your support is very comforting with lots of wisdom. I signed up for an art class for 4 hours a week. I have been to 2 sessions and have found when I come home, I'm totally burned out. I was supposed to go today but had insomnia and cancelled. My caregiver still came and I am out, but I'm just too tired to enjoy it. My mother called me a selfish daughter and threw one insult after another making me feel so guilty. On top of that. I called the cremation society and the gentleman on the phone was nice but also made me feel guilty. My mother has some Dementia but can still walk. I asked her if she would like to spend a week in fairfax VA with her son and his grown children. Her answer is always no because she can't stand being around my sister in law. They won't help her anyway. I feel like I need 2 weeks of vacation just to regain my strength. I've had to cancel some important doc appts because I can't always afford a caregiver. What do you do when your own child and strangers make you feel guilty? Nursing homes are out of the question.