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My sister is visiting and my father needs his license renewed I was planning to take him. Noe she wants to take him without me being there. There's a new form to fill out about medical conditions and he has some that they don't want to admit too. I feel he's at that age were he shouldn't drive. I don't what to force the issue but should I let her take him without me?

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Hopefully when everyone goes home your dad decides that driving isn't on his to do list. If it is, use the doctor to report to the DMV that he is driving while he should not and they will deal with him.

You are doing the right thing by your dad, learn to take your siblings and what they think with a grain of salt. You know whether they believe it or not doesn't matter.

Hugs, it is a difficult situation to be a parents caregiver and some siblings only contributions are problems.
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Is your dad still driving? If he’s no longer driving, why would you have his license renewed? Why not take him in to get a state ID card instead? You can always alert to the DMV about his health conditions, the DMV has forms or you can have his doctor alert them as well.
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sbopie Jun 2019
My husband does the driving now. He was fine not driving until my sister came up and put a buzz in his ear. I think he wants to have one just to say he has it. He puts on a front in front of my sister like he's fine nothing wrong with him. He's going to be 82 this Friday and has had 3 strokes. So we're not going to let him drive. Unless the doctor says he can. He has to go threw a driving evaluation to determine that. Thanks for your input.
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Nope!
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The only bit I would be concerned about - rather than grateful that she was taking this off my To Do list - is the "has some [medical conditions] they don't want to admit to."

Hem-hem. Failure to disclose relevant information, or giving deliberate misinformation, is an offence with a substantial fine and/or imprisonment attached to it. Tell them not to be IDIOTS. You can print off the relevant form online, if you like, highlight the warning with a marker pen and wave it under their noses.

But lay it on with a trowel about how helpful and fabulous she is.
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sbopie Jun 2019
My siblings think there's nothing wrong with their father and I'm just overreacting but I live in the next town.I've been here. Were they live out of state and hardly ever see him. So, they don't know how he is. He's going to be 82 this Friday. My husband does all the driving so we don't plan on letting him drive. Which he was fine with until my sister showed up. So, it's just another headache I have to deal with. He has had 3 minor strokes. I told them they have to be truthful on the forms but I don't know if they did. I told them about the consequences if they didn't but I'm the youngest so they don't listen to me at all. Thank you for your input.
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I'm curious, what medical condition might they be hiding that would make him ineligible to drive? Your profile doesn't say anything about your father lacking mental competence, so as POA your job is to act as his right hand and not as his overseer - if you feel strongly that he is a danger on the road then you can inform the DMV after the fact.
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sbopie Jun 2019
My husband does all the driving and my father was fine until my sister came up. He going to be 82 this Friday and he has had 3 minor strokes. They think he's fine. He is very independent and takes care of himself but I have concerns about his driving and he hasn't driven in almost 2years. I'm going to check with his doctors we they can evaluate his driving before I let him drive.
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You are POA, if you do not trust dad to provide complete medical information, then you need to do this. If you don't want to cause trouble with sis, let her take him. Then go back in to update after sis leaves.
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sbopie Jun 2019
Ya that's what I'm planning to do. Thank you.
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