SO, this is the second time that calls from the ALF have caused me more anxiety than I should have to deal with. I have repeatedly asked them NOT to call me unless it is an extreme emergency when it comes to Dad. I already have to ignore at least 6 calls every morning from Dad, but get worried when I see a call from the ALF first thing in the morning. C'mon. The man is 87 years old with advanced stage COPD. An early morning call from the ALF makes me panic a little (Did dad die in his sleep ). Then, it's like pulling teeth to get someone on the phone to find out WHAT's going on. I don't want to go through the emotional roller coaster for a "Your Dad's tank isn't working". Tuesday it was "Your Dad's tank isn't working, so he can't go to the Adult Day Center". I didn't have time to manage it, so I called Hospice and never heard back. I caught up with Dad's hospice nurse yesterday and followed up on the Oxygen situation, and no one seemed to know WHAT happened Tuesday. I assumed Dad stayed at the ALF, but the hospice nurse said he saw Dad when he returned from the ALF, so I have no idea if he went or not. I just let it go. I just spent the last 25 minutes chasing down the ALF staff only to discover that Dad has already gone to the Adult Day Center. So, my hands are shaking. I can't think, and I am WEEKS behind on a project at work because this crap ruins my concentration. It's hard to design a curriculum when you're constantly on the phone or keep getting interrupted, Is there anyone here that has SUCCESSFULLY managed a full time job and caregiving? I'm nowhere near retirement age, and if I had to quit or go part time the resentment would be catastrophic. ...going to grab a cup of coffee and try to regroup. Goodness!!!