I'm single, no close family members or friends and need advice on how to appoint someone to handle things when I can't?

I'm in the same boat. After enormous time and energy researching, here's what I've done:

- I'm mentally competent but physically incapacitated: 
-- I have a living trust with my best friend and neighbor as successor trustee. She can sell my house and manage all things in my trust (everything that can be in a living trust is listed there).
-- She has my medical and general POAs, my living will, and specific POA for the few things that cannot be in the trust (like my IRA).

- I'm mentally incompetent, regardless of physicality:
-- My living trust shifts to my bank's trust department. They manage everything within the trust, which is the bulk of my stuff. They charge a small percentage of my estate every year.
-- For the few things not in the trust, my friend takes care of with the POAs

- I'm dead: the bank is my executor and takes care of everything. Their service fee is a percentage of my estate.

Caregiverhelp, if you used an Attorney to fill out your legal paperwork, sometimes the Attorney could be your Executor. It wouldn't hurt to ask. But note, the Attorney will charge a fee for the time spent being the Executor.

Would their sons or daughters wish to do this? You may also often hire a bank or a fiduciary. Speak to your banker about what they might know about as far as someone who would do this for a fee. Medical is easy and your family can continue to do this knowing your wishes. But the other part is difficult, the paying of bills and etc. The things is, as far as executor, don't worry; they can hire a lawyer out of the estate of the funds, or refuse to serve upon your death and court will appoint an executor.