My dad has always been very conspiracy theory and is a covert narcissist. His scowl alone has always been able to shut me down, paired with underhanded remarks causes a lot of shame. That's why my mom left when I was 11. My dad had a triple bypass in 2011 and became very angry.....never seen him so angry. He had another heart attack in 2018 and was not very pleasant.
He has been becoming more and more forgetful while refusing to believe he's wrong and violent toward my little dog who barks out of excitement when I come home. He is always kicking at him and I have no idea if he makes contact when I am not around but my dog acts hurt from time to time when I pick him up. Last week my dad shoved my dog off the back of the couch and hurt him to the point where I couldn't pick him up without him screaming. I thought it was his back but found out it was his ribs near his sternum. $150 vet bill later I find out luckily it's just bruised ribs. When I told my dad he hurt my dog he tried to blame my 8 year old at first, then after explaining what was wrong and telling him he did in fact hurt my dog he looked at me with that glare he does and said "so". No concern for my dog or the cost it incured me and could have invited me, which is strange because my dad has always been a very frugal person. I am so worried he will get worse. Not just with my dog but also my daughter. I don't have the money to pay to break our lease and when I told my dad he should move out he replied that I should move out. I'm sorry for the really long post, I just feel so lost and am hoping someone has some wisdom to share that might help. Thank you for taking the time.