My mother conned me into selling my house and we bought a home together. I was very sick and I lived alone and I thought well. I’m going to be taking care of them anyway perhaps this will be the best thing.It has been a nightmare. They’re constantly telling me to get out screaming at me picking on every little thing I do all I do is cook and clean take care the house and driving to doctors Appointments I’m screamed at several times a day.I don’t know how much more I can take . my dad is deaf now he can’t hear so you have to talk loud and he thinks I’m yelling at him and he starts screaming at me not to yell at him. I can’t win my mom’s constantly confused but the one thing she knows is that everything is my fault. today was particularly hard. I rushed in from an appointment and my mom barges in my room doesn’t even let me catch my breath and the dog had gone to the bathroom on the floor so I said oh my God there is poop on the floor and my mom walked over and stepped in it I don’t know why and then got really angry and started screaming at me. She walked all the way through the house when she could’ve just stepped out the door outside and cleaned off her foot and started saying don’t yell at me. Don’t yell at me. It’s like I’m just gaslighted constantly. I walked down the hall to check to see if she was all right and her and my dad are sitting there, whispering about how I think I do so much around here and how they don’t need me and I’m so terrible. It really makes me just wanna run away. What am I doing this for Two people that treat me horribly and don’t even like me? And that is hard thing to deal with the fact that your parents hate you. I almost can’t fathom it. Sometimes I sit and I think of all the things I do I run around and I’m just constantly working cleaning cooking fixing and nothing ever makes them happy. And I don’t have the money to put them in a home. We don’t have the money to bring help in. I am just totally at a loss.
If you are the sole owner then sell and move. Nobody says you have to bring other adults with you.
I suggest that you see an elder lawyer to determine how to most easily get your equity out of the home. Your parents will likely have to buy you out.
If they refuse, just go. The important thing is put as much distance between yourself and this situation as possible.
Do you have a job? That will definitely help.
I wish you safe passage.
You aren't the one who pays for their care, either. They don't "need" you, right?
Sell that house legally and correctly, according to a lawyer's advice, so they can get Medi-Cal.
Otherwise you are going to get sicker with the stress. Your parents don't "hate" you, they just disrespect you. They are typical selfish Senior Brats. Two against one. You will never win, so find a way OUT.
Why anyone in their right mind would stay in a house where they are not welcome, wanted and are daily abused is beyond me.
And you are NOT responsible to pay for anything for your parents including any facility care they may need in the future or even home care. That is on them. And if they don't have the money they'll have to apply for Medicaid.
Please call a lawyer to figure out the house thing, since you sadly made the mistake of intermingling your money with theirs to buy it. They will more than likely have to buy out your share if they want to remain there after you move out.
I wish you well in finding a new place where you can live in peace far away from the people that gave you birth.
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