I am sick. I'm leaving my step's dad house. He makes my life difficult. I only moved in to help with my mom. She is leaving with me. She is tired of the drama. Just recently he has said that he wants us to stay but threatened to kick us out last year. He can't take care of her or himself. I don't think I should be responsible for his care. I'm dealing with health issues and working. The house is in bad shape too. He has no family except for his niece and nephew. What do you think I should do? I don't want to take him with me and don't want him by himself. I don't want anyone to blame me for anything that might happen to him after I leave. I have no money to pay for assisted care and his check is small.
Adult Protection Services (APS) is a County agency. They should be in the phone book. Same with Office of Aging. I would not leave a vulnerable adult alone. Like it or not he "is" Moms responsibility. It would be wise checking with them before you make any decisions.
Perhaps they can both go to an assisted living facility and you can get back to being a daughter.
My mom always says she wants to leave her husband, but then she won't even go to lunch without him.
I guess SD has health issues? I don't see where u feel you r responsible for him. Your Mom is. If he can't be left alone there is Medicaid and LTC. Your Mom would be the Community Spouse.
You could call APS and tell them there is a vulnerable adult but not sure how that will effect Mom.
We will see what others say.