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My father says its unnecessary to drink so much water and will get very angry when I bring him a glass and tell him to drink it. I have tried giving him the drink mixes called liquid IV to replace just a plain glass of water and he does seem to like those but I wonder how good they are for him to drink constantly because of the high sodium, I do give him the sugar free ones. Also, I try and keep him from drinking too much after 8pm because otherwise he's up all night going to the bathroom, and having to change his diaper. How can I get him to drink all the water he needs during the day but also keep him from being up all night going to the bathroom.

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FLUID is important not just water.
What color is his urine during the day? use that as a gauge as to his hydration.
Dark, he needs more fluids
Clear, he needs less fluid
Anything in between might be just fine.

Please take into consideration what he is consuming during the day.
Juice, coffee, tea, soda, soup, stew, salads, fruits, vegetables, ice cream, pudding all contain fluids.
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To quote "the advice that we need to drink gallons per day has mostly been debunked". Drink most water in the morning, to avoid troubles at night.
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AlvaDeer Nov 11, 2025
Margaret is correct. Elders DO lose the natural "drive to take in fluids". And most on entry to any ER will have blood work that shows dehydration. So some fluid help is necessary for some elders. HOWEVER pushing fluids that people don't want can have repercussions. Those with a failing heart have a difficult time processing fluids in the proper manner due to "pump failure" and the result can be peripheral edema in legs, abdomen or--worse--fluid in the lungs causing shortness of breath.

If this is an ongoing question with this September post I would discuss with the MD.
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Serve water melon once a day.
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Leave water Bottles around Like Poland Springs has Mineral water , a Bottle of Evian water . That's what I did they drink it too .
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Rlwade76: I started drinking Hint water after being a low consumer of water.
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You can't make him drink water. My mum tells me she can't swallow it but can down 16oz of overly sweetened tea. I give her vitamin water for the flavor. Reduce your stress. Pick your battles and keep it moving.
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Give him what he wants to drink.
If many of the things that he eats during the day also have a lot of fluid he might be fine.
Cereal in the morning with milk, some juice, a cup of coffee. There is a lot of fluid there.
Lunch of some soup or a salad and fruit maybe some yogurt maybe some iced tea or another cup of coffee.
Same with dinner. Look at everything that has fluid
Go by the color of his urine.
If it is very dark then you can worry about getting more fluids in him. The exception to this would be early morning.
The sports drinks they are high in sodium because it is supposed to replace what someone sweats out when they are active. The high salt may actually encourage him to drink more. So if you want to give him those I would either give them in the morning so that he will drink more during the day. The other option if he does like the flavor and will drink them dilute them start with 75% sport drink, 25% water then after a while do 50% water 50% sport drink. If he still drinks that you can try 75% water and 25% sport drink.
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My mother dislikes water. Will drink lemonade or sprite zero only. At 83 I am okay with this. Plain water is immpossible but I will dilute the lemonade with more water like I use to dilute juice with my children.
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I agree with the others that say not to push it. On the flip side, I have a mother who complains of nausea on the daily. So knowing she drinks about 1/4 tsp of water a day and suspecting possible dehydration, like the others, I make sure I leave out things for her sweet tooth that are more liquid-y - small containers of jello, pudding, applesauce. She also likes oatmeal for breakfast. By the time she gets to the table, I’ve added a half gallon of milk because it keeps thickening up. Also, watermelon being in season has been helpful.
Good luck!
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I agree with funkygrandma59, all of those options of fluid in foods is a great option.
Apple sauce, grapes, ect….

I did give the liquid in to my father, and it landed him in the hospital. I felt so horrible about buying it and giving it to him!! The salt was not good for him because of heart issues. It was hard on him, us, and an expensive mistake. I would only give the thickener if he has trouble swallowing.

Best of luck to you both. 🙏🍀❤️
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Your father may not need as much water as you are trying to give him. Does he have to meet a certain fluid amount? Those fluids do not need to be plain water.
I cannot drink plain water myself b/c it causes loss of sodium. (And as funkygrandma59 writes, plain water is boring.) I have a fluid restriction limit so I have make all my ounces count. I mix protein powder into coffee or tea to make a more "interesting" drink, and I make a "DIY Pedialyte" by adding salt and sugar and a touch of orange juice to water for a water-like drink. Maybe you can find some combination of flavors and drinks that your father likes and he will be more willing to drink that. If he takes medications with water or fluids, remember those ounces count, too.
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Suzy23 brings up a good point, those with some form of dementia often develop swallowing difficulties that make drinking difficult (dysphagia), signs of this can include coughing and sputtering when drinking. There are several thickeners on the market that can be added to help with this.
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My dad had dementia and with it, problems swallowing, especially water. He found orange juice slightly easier. His last year or so, he drank only a few ounces of total liquids per day and this chronic dehydration exacerbated his kidney failure and increased the dementia confusion, and contributed to blood pressure drops, dizziness, falls, etc. He would also eat only vanilla ice cream. Refused all protein shakes, pudding, applesauce, soups, pureed food, etc. Tried “thick-It” which he hated. One thing he would occasionally accept was jelly drops:

https://www.jellydrops.us/

These were recommended by his hospice nurse.

I pretty much stopped struggling with him over it. Good luck.
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Get him an attractive insulated cup with a built-in fold-down straw. The residents at DH’s memory care use them - 16 oz. The brand is Hydrojug. It has a side handle and a screw-on top, and if they drop it, it doesn’t break or spill. Keep it filled with water or other liquid.

Make it easy for him!
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I live in a very hot summer climate. People (often tradesmen) who work outside in the sun need a lot of water. People who spend most of their time inside, don’t need much more than normal. The ‘advice’ usually misses this obvious point.
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Unless he has a history of kidney stones, frequent UTIs or symptoms of dehydration there is no need to keep pushing water, all the advice that we need to drink gallons per day has mostly been debunked. He's 88 and has a life limiting disease, offer him coffee, tea, soda, beer or whatever else he enjoys, in moderation.
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Try using flavor drops or Sonic infusers for water, the strawberry limeade is fantastic. I buy them online at Walmart, theyre sugar free. Then stop driving both of you crazy micromanaging this!

The man is 88 with Alzheimer's. My mother had dementia and hated drinking water so she refused. I did nothing to extend her life with such a cruel disease at play anyway, and despite drinking so little, she lived to 95.

Relax and save yourself all the aggravation.
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Liquid IV is for athletes and folks who do physical labor in hot conditions. I would absolutely never give it to an elderly person, it would be like drinking sea water.
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Allow him to eat food that contain water/fluids like watermelon, cucumbers, strawberries, oranges, celery, tomatoes, soups and the like.
And I wouldn't worry about the liquid IV drinks(especially since he likes them)having too much salt as salt is one of the many important electrolytes that the body needs to function well.
Also throwing in an Ensure daily can be a smart choice for not only fluids, but also if he's needing more calories in his diet.

And on a side note, I am not a big fan of water either as it is so very boring/blah to drink, so I personally do put the flavored water drops in mine which makes it much more tolerable to get my glasses of water in daily.
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