She always yelling at me swearing at me she has scratched me bitten me choked me kicked me hits me these are sudden outburst and when I’m in middle of transfere to her seat or bed she try’s ways to hurt me even more now she is causing sores on her self then blames me for them she is so strong it is unreal when she wants to be she does not do it with anyone else she is a different person medication do not work sends her more wild she has no uti as always checking this she even gone back in time sometimes thinks her son is her husband and myself as another women my farther in-law who passed away 3 years ago well let’s say adventure before my husband and sister in-law was born. Put it this way I can not have kids due to medical problem but she thinks I have child and took her husband away so when I have to take her to toilet that’s when she starts yelling screaming verbal abuse and hitting begins. Please need some advise on how to handle this as I am crying every night cause she is so abusive towards me.
I am sorry that you are going through this. It seems that the caregiver for the person with alzheimers or dementia is unfortunately the one that suffers the brunt of their anger and agression. I was the caregiver for my mother for 4 years and she would not show her anger in front of my husband until the disease progressed to the later stages, because she didn't know anyone. I just caution you that this could go on for years and it just doesn't get any easier to handle. Please take care of yourself. You have to do what is best for you but for me I ended up placing my mother in a memory care facility August 2018 because it was taking a toll on me. I pray that this works out for all involved .
Is your husband aware of her violence towards you.