It's been 4 years ago. She got sick was in the hospital for 3 weeks then she came home. The doctor say she needs 24 /7 care but agency only give her 6 hours a day. My husband was here every day when she came out the hospital 7 days a week. When she came out and still doing it 4 years later I met my husband 3 years ago last September we got marry. My mother in law didn't like that. She is 100 percent better now she is 84 can walk with her walker can feed her self she can do everything except bathroom meds meals and shower. We do that for her I know she can get her meds and go to the bathroom her self but bc my husband did everything for her she don't want to. When I'm helping her I let her do thoes things for her self and I told my husband he's listening to me a little now but still he end up doing the same things. It drive me crazy bc I know what my mother in law is doing she is trying to come between me and my husband. She used manipulations on him put guilt trips on him he have a brother but he don't want to help with her and that's her life favorite. We are at her home from the time she came out the hospital and we have our own place so I told my husband this morning when September comes we are going home every night to our place. I say you can come in the mornings and help her out he goes to work at 2 pm I come home from work at 3 give her dinner at 530 this is our life every day. Can't go or do anything we don't have a life and it's really getting to me now. I feel like I'm losing my self and we have a lot of conflicts now we are young people I just turn 50 my husband is 48 I told him she live her life already we have too now we had no honeymoon as yet got marry after the reception we had to come home with her to her home and start all over again with caregiver job. She had home health aids but complain all the time about them so my husband got sick of the complaining got rid of them so I told him you need to let them come back and we leave go to our own home. I comprise with him that's why I told him we go home every night to our place he said what would that accomplish? Like really we can't do anything here we don't even have a sex life she calls him all the time why bc she Don't want him spending time with me. I'm on to her I know that what shes doing I told my husband once a month lets go some where for the weekend let your brother come stay with her. She said to me why you guys need to go away for a weekend I was so upset with her I'm getting frustrated with this. I find myself crying for no reason so please can someone give some advice what to do.