Dad passed, I stayed 8 months with mom but finally brought her home to live w/me. She's 90 w/dementia, 1 kidney, not much colon, & she's so sweet. She poops & pees before she makes it to the bathroom which both are very small (as it's just me n my dog) & although I had the tub removed & handicap shower installed, my little 2 bedroom/2 bath home is just not equipped for a walker/wheelchair. I've started after 8 months of 24/7 care which she needs, hired care givers. 10 am-5 pm & 10 pm-5am but on their days off and the 10 hrs in btwn shifts I'm going crazy!! It's not her fault at all but she gets up 5 times a night which in turn I have to go to change her... I'm starting to resent her.
Even w/caregivers there, I'm trying to get their home ready to sell, finally got 25 yrs of stuff rid of (no help from the corona virus) & trying to get my place back to normal after being gone 8 month. Not to mention dad's funeral, getting finances in order, etc. I should be grateful they had $$ to hire caregivers but I feel resentful when it's just me or guilty when I think that way.