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jessicagt Asked September 2018
I'm an only child not sure if I should quit my career to take care of my mom.
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My mom is 89 years old. She seems somewhat depressed and becoming forgetful. She has always been somewhat difficult and critical. She tries her best not to bother me. In fact, she never calls. I always have to call her. We live in the same time. I try to call her at least everyother day. I invite her to dinner with my family -- she loves her grandchildren:). It almost always ends on a bad note. I'm trying not to be selfish, but if I quit teaching daily to spend more time with her, I'm concerned it won't be good. On the same hand I'm concerned about her.
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gladimhere Sep 2018
Do not quit your job, it will effect your retirement and every aspect of your financial health to say nothing about you, emotionally.
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jessicagt Sep 2018
Thank you for this:) I've already quit in a way by telling my employer that I have an aging parent and they know I'm an only child. However, there are so many jobs out there in teaching and I'm a good teacher...day by day, anyway I so appreciate your comment.
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anonymous839718 Sep 2018
Bad idea to give up your job, especially when things end on a bad note. I would encourage her to have a complete medical checkup. And an evaluation by a geriatric psychiatrist could be helpful. An assessment of her forgetfulness and possible depression. There could be a medication that would be helpful for her.
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jessicagt Sep 2018
Thank you! I really appreciate your suggestions. She will refuse, I've brought up medication many times in the past. She takes nothing... Now that you have suggested this, I'm going to schedule to meet with her doctor -- he's local and a very good family medicine doctor. Perhaps his office can call her in to review recent labs or follow up on an appointment that she just had. I want so much to go do something with her, but I don't want to be yelled at.
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gladimhere Sep 2018
Jessica, getting her to the doctor is an excellent idea. However, family practice doctors do not have the training to treat the elderly beyond the common illnesses that we all suffer. She really needs to see a geriatrician and depending on the other issues a geriatric psychologist may be necessary. At the very least find her a geriatric specialty doc.
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