A series of health problems have left Mom with short term memory loss and behavioral delusions and aphasia. However, she can still communicate her feelings to me. She was living independently until last June. She has always been somewhat reclusive and hates having people around her and touching her and telling her what to do. She has been placed in a long term care facility and just hates it. Every phone call ends up with her wanting me to get her out of there and take her home where she can be alone, to die on her own terms. The facts are, she can't live alone and now her home has been sold.
My phone calls seems to upset her and I was wondering if I should call less or not at all. I usually call twice a week. I have an elder care nurse who visits regularly and reports to me. The staff all tell me Mom seems pleasant, somewhat depressed and confused. She will not participate in any activities.
My husband and I are planning a trip in few weeks and I fear that seeing her will create a whole new set of problems. She might think I am coming to take her out of the NH. What should I do? Mom cannot travel long distances. She is being given low doses of an antidepressant. I thought I saw a change for the better for a week or so, but now she is back to her complaining and crying.
Thanks for your suggestions. This website is a wonderful place for advice and support.