I’m disabled and am 64 years old. I now live in the house with my Disabled Son, his girlfriend who is 37 and has had a pacemaker put in. I have a 5 year old grandson and a 15 year old grandson and a nanny.
i can care for my self mostly but I don’t need all the family ruckus here. It’s very bad for me.
If you are living with them begin looking for Senior Housing or other independent living arrangement.
If they are living with you give them time to move out.
If they do not move out by the time allotted then you legally evict them.
If your disabled son is not able to live on his own look into Group Homes or he moves in with his girlfriend.
I hope you are getting financial payment for caring for your grandkids. And I hope the parent(s) are paying for the nanny.
Set boundaries and stick to them.
I wouldn't be thrilled living with an adult son and his GF with heart issues, with teenage and 5 year old boys? Plus a Nanny? Sounds crowded and fairly crazy...ruckus is a great description! I prefer peace and quiet myself.
I'd consider hunting for a less crowed place. Lots of older folks rent extra rooms out. Maybe you can find a quiet senior roommate without 2 rambunctious boys!
Try that "roomies.com" website.