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Yes, here we are. There may of course be more specific to you groups, but we have Canadians and folks from the UK along with the US. We know what it's like to be in your shoes. It is a hard lonely place to be, so I sympathize. We have a lot of people taking care of their spouses here who come to vent or ask questions etc.

We have similar situations here in the US during at home hospice care or right after release from a rehabilitation center and someone comes in, does the bath and goes. Even though someone else is doing the bath, I found it was still a lot of work for me anyway. I still had to collect everything and despite the professional nature of things, it was still someone coming into the house, so it was like a guest visiting. I found out all kinds of things about the people's lives, because I was not seeing a lot of other people at the time either. So it's weird. You're alone, but then there are people there who aren't friends, but doing something very intimate in your home.

There are so many people doing this that it is strange indeed that most of us are lonely while it's going on. It is isolating from the rest of the world. I hope you will share some more of your story.
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Sounds like a miserable situation. Everyone here pretty much "gets it."
Hopefully your wife will get an opening in a LTC soon. Good luck!
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You're in one now. Spill the tea, bro.
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SamTheManager 19 hours ago
Best response so far! lol
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Hi Doug. Welcome.

You can chat here any time. We are a group of caregivers who share our experiences, our struggles, and give one another tips and advice.

While you are waiting for a LTC bed, you might try calling a hospice provider, who will come to the house. She would be evaluated to determine whether she qualifies for hospice care. This could bring you some relief.

Also, consider hiring a CNA from a home care agency to provide help. This is too much for you to be doing on your own.
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Doug5155 Feb 2, 2026
Thank-you, I am in Ontario Canada, are there members here that are in Ontario? I have a PSW that comes in twice a week for an hour to give my wife a sponge bath but they are in and out quickly. I am getting fairly lonely to be honest as I can't get out and my wife really can't communicate in any meaningful way. I was hoping that there might be some sort of chat groups for folks in my same situation that can at least socially interact with others who get it.
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