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She has been making excuses to not go to Dr. so she won't have to bathe. She doesn't do anything for herself. I do everything, but I won't bathe her I'm just renting a room. I pay rent, do all the cleaning, grocery shopping and cooking. She's always cold so heat stays on and on 85/86 and I'm sick with a cold because I keep my room normal, rest of house is in 80s. She always says she wants these big country meals and when I buy, cook and serve her she never says thanks. She hardly eats and has lost so much weight. She doesn't even take care of her dog who is blind and has cancer. I'm a grandmother with 5 grandkids. I love her but I need help. She smells.

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Minimally contact her family + call APS, before you move, to ensure that family and APS will take over everything, (to ensure your peace of mind)? Maybe the family might continue renting to you?
If APS removes her from the home they cannot evict you because that decision is up to the Power of Attorney, family or new owner, so you'll have time to find housing when needed
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It's kind of cute that you list her as 821. I am assuming you meant 82, which is my own age.

I think that if you are unhappy living with this friend it would be very wise for you to move to another roommate situation.
If you honestly feel that your friend will be in need of help when you leave, do let her family know you are leaving, or give a call to APS for a wellness check on her.

Best of luck. It's always difficult finding new digs, and it's never easy living with someone else whether kids, parents, spouses or roommates.
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I think the saying "No good deed goes unpunished" applies to your situation.

As others have said, move out and report to APS.

This situation is no longer working for either of you. Friends don't take advantage of friends.

The longer you keep your hand in this, the longer it will go on, and the worse it will get...and you will be blamed for whatever goes wrong. Right now it's not entirely your fault, but it soon will be, if you allow it to continue.
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As already said . Move out and call APS. You can also try the County Area Agency of Aging . Look on your county website .
This will not get better . The woman needs to be in a facility . She will never listen to you .
The dog may need to go to a shelter .
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Unfortunately it sounds like it's time to move out and either find a new roommate or a lower priced place to live by yourself(the latter would be my choice).
This woman's care is now more than you can handle and as a "roommate" you shouldn't have to handle any of it anyway, and she needs to be in a care facility of some sort.
So I would give her your notice that you'll be moving out by the end of February, and then call APS reporting a vulnerable adult living by herself who shouldn't be and they will take things from there.
You deserve much better living conditions don't you think?
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Live In caregivers get free room and board plus a salary, yet here you are not only paying rent but paying for HER FOOD? Thats ridiculous.
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