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It seems like at every turn we’re bombarded by marketing that can be painful to those of us who would do anything to celebrate this special holiday like we did in the past.


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When Mom was alive, I took flowers to her every month and for Mother's Day, I ordered a large bouquet of flowers from a florist with a card listing all of the names of children and grandchildren. 

This year I am avoiding any mention of Mother's Day in regards to my Mom.  I am focusing on the NEW Moms in our family--my nephew & his wife had a baby in January and my niece & her husband are expecting a baby any day now.
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I just went to the mall and purchased something small that would make a good gift. (I wasn’t even thinking about Mother’s Day). The clerk said, “oh, is this for Mother’s Day?” He wanted to know if I needed a gift receipt. I smiled and said “yes.” He had no idea that I don’t have a mom or dad anymore.

I am am proud of myself because I didn’t cry (until I got to the car). I figure that’s progress.
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DarkSeaglass May 8, 2019
My heart goes out to you. I am sorry for your losses.
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Went to the cemetery. Talked to her. Did not attend any family gatherings that I did not want to attend. Took a day for me and my husband was perfectly cool with that.
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Prayers and condolences to all of you who lost your Mother.  For me it has been 6 years, and I still miss her.  I try to honor her memory in some way, and sit with remembering the good times.  I have put her picture on FaceBook, lit a candle in her honor at home, and this year I ordered a bouquet of flowers for myself and in memory of Mother, Grandmother, and my aunt who died 6 weeks ago. 

Long ago I told my sons that it was important to me to hear from them for Mother's Day, and a call meant more than a card.  They live very far away, and have been great about keeping in touch.  Do something good for yourself, and honor her memory.
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This will be my first Mothers' Day without my Mom. I share the sadness many of you feel. Like some of you, I am just trying to ignore it and let it pass. I can't wait to stop getting bombarded by TV commercials and emails from everyone from CVS to AAA urging me to "do something nice for Mom." Ugh!!!
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Yes, it hurts every year. It will be the 4th Mother's Day without my Mom. Have no kids so all we will do is go to MIL's and do some things around her house for her. I will be glad the day is over with. So much is made of these holidays and people just don't think before they blurt things out...not everyone has a mom living to enjoy the day with! 24 hours, or less if you go to sleep, and it will be over! It has been 25 years since my dad died and I still dread Father's Day too.
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shad250 May 11, 2019
You're not the only one who will be glad the day is over.
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My sweet Mom passed 3 weeks ago. I’m still having a hard time, and I can’t watch the Mothers Day commercials. But its made a little easier since Mom hated Mothers Day. She thought it was just another Hallmark holiday and you should be nice to your Mom every day. I did have a funny experience this morning however. When I would visit Mom daily at the NH many times she’d only have one shoe on. We’d wheel around the place trying to find where the other shoe fell off while she’d say a little rhyme “Diddle diddle dumpling, my son John, went to bed with his stockings on. One shoe off, one shoe on, diddle diddle dumpling, my son John.” I’d never heard this when I was a kid, so I thought it was pretty funny. And since she was calling me by the cats name by then, sometimes I’d just have to scratch my head at what she did remember. Anyway at a local antique store this morning I found an old little picture of a boy with one shoe on and the words to the rhyme! My heart skipped a beat. It was my Mother’s Day present to myself, now hanging in my office, and it’s hard to describe how happy it made me. I hope all of you who are hurting can find some moments of happiness through your sadness this weekend.
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My mom is being "difficult " this year, she does this when she want attention. Last night she told hubs that she does not want to out for dinner ( at her fav place) because "her mother is dead". Yes she is , about 35 years ago. And she said this to my hubs who lost his mother 4 months ago. He pointed this out to her, and told her that she is our Mother, and DDs grandmother... So today I am acting like all is "go",,, yes you will get dressed.. a nice sweatsuit is fine ( no need for fancy clothes) and they have soft shelled crabs.. etc. She will go, she just wants to be "begged" into it.. and sometimes I get so tired of it. We'll see what happens. I agree this is a "Hallmark" holiday, and sometimes I get so tired of it all.
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Gershun May 11, 2019
I hear you. My mom is gone but she never wanted all the fuss and that's why I liked fussing over her.

If people only realized.
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I remember in the 1960’s and 1970’s Dad would buy orchid corsages for Mom and Grandma (his Mom), and Pink carnation boutonnieres for Grandpa, Dad, my brother and myself. We would go to church at Grandparents’ church because Grandma’s family had been members since church was started in 1903.

Our Walmart always has lots and lots of flower bouquets set up by the front doors as a reminder that you need to buy your Mom some flowers. I can not go to Walmart this weekend because I know I will start crying. This is the first Mother's Day without Mom.

It has always been hard to find a card for Mom as the sayings depict a "Perfect" Mom and my Mom was far from perfect.

Whether your Mom is living or deceased, I hope that you have fond memories of your Mom and Grandmother.  {{{HUGS}}}
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My mom passed away on Sunday, tomorrow will be one week. My heart is broken, she was the best mom and my best friend. She knew who I was up until the end. My mom lived with me and I took care of her, she went in to the hospital for what I thought was a routine UTI, while she was having some autonomic failure also, but ended up aspirating and got aspiration pneumonia and passed away. I'm still in shock and can't believe she's gone. Mother's day for me will be spent grieving and thinking about my mom, but I will have to get myself together because I have 2 sons who even though they miss their Grandma still want to celebrate with me. This will be very difficult.
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shad250 May 11, 2019
I am so sorry for your loss.
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