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If my aunt is being belligerent and angry. Is it not a good idea to tell her she has alzheimer’s that’s why she forgets things?

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Medication to calm her anger, which is likely coming from anxiety, would be a gift to her. She doesn’t like feeling angry and out of control. Telling her she has Alzheimer’s doesn’t accomplish anything but to add to her frustration
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Reply to Daughterof1930
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No, you don't have to tell her. She won't get it anyway. Just see if there are meds that can help calm her. My mom looked at me this week and said, "My brain is broken." I was pretty shocked. She said she thinks something came loose in her brain and it's two halves now.
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My Moms neurologist told her. Sat in front of her, looked her in the eyes and told her. Once he did that, I never mentioned it again. I do think your Aunt may need some meds for the symptoms you meantioned. Not good for her to be in this state.

I read where your selling her house forbher care in an AL or MC. Good for you, taking care of someone with ALZ, or any dementia, is hard. Placing my Mom was the best thing I did.
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No, don't tell her. She won't remember what you tell her anyway. It's best not to make any reference to cognitive decline because then they get angry, which brings you full circle.

Instead, start making plans for how to help her as the disease progresses. This does not mean taking her into your home or moving into hers. You don't want to live with a belligerent dementia patient! But you could help her find some nice continuum of care facilities that will provide professional care until the very end.

I wish you and your aunt the best of luck.
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No. She probably has anosognosia anyway which is the inability to recognize or acknowledge her deficits.

Best of luck to you.
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