Hi,
Mom suddenly can't walk, very confused, very weak. I know she should be at the ER. I also know she won't survive another hospital trip or stay or rehab or any of the other myriad things that will happen again psychologically or physically. I know this is what she wants. At this point should I call hospice. I know they will come 24/7.
I just could use support that hospice can guide me in the decision.
I need to let her make this decision. I have care managers that I can call as well and will do that. Sunday in a snowstorm. Why not. Plumbing issues at new place. Why not. Just moved them still unpacking. Why not.
Yes, it can be depressing.
It sounds like you have done everything you can for your parents at this point. They are being cared for and seem content from what you describe.
Time to take some down time for yourself, so your own health does not start to decline from stress.
Because that has to be ordered. I am familiar with your ongoing with mom, here, but forget if she is registered with Hospice.
You truly need medical here, so if she is already ordered hospice by her MD, then yes, definitely call them. This COULD just be a bladder infection. Have to tested the urine with the dipstick method? You can get them from pharmacy and they aren't expensive. Look for nitrates, leukocytes being positive. Your hospice MD can order antibiotics.
So know if you are planning on letting her die at home and you have NOT yet implemented Hospice this won't work. Her organs will start to shut down. There will be confusion and agitation.
So if on Hospice, yes. Call now.
If NOT on Hospice as ordered by her MD and already working with you then she must likely go to ER. There you wouldn't need to get an admit. They could check urine. If no code and DNR status with you as POA a Social Worker can see you IN THE ER and work to get you back home WITH HOSPICE.
So sorry. But no matter WHAT mom wants you can't handle organ shutdown with no meds for agitation and your mom will get increasingly out of control. Call Ambulance if not already on Hospice.
We are currently at the hospital and they are running the gamut. I had to specifically request they check for UTI. They have her on a purewick for that since she's so weak instead of trying to get her to the bathroom. But she hasn't been able to go unfortunately.
Covid negative.
So once we find out what's going on there will be decisions from there.
This could be anything from "nothing" to UTI, Stroke
If mom is on Hospice now then you call your Hospice. ANY change in status either physical, mental should be a call to your Hospice.
If mom is not on Hospice now you call 911 and once this issue is resolved you can ask at the Hospital for a Hospice referral and the chances are good that there is a Hospice rep there and they can evaluate her before she is discharged.
Trying to keep my dad calm. It's all so very hard.