I am feeling hurt from my mom right now and I have gotten wonderful advice from this site before so this is the first place I thought I'd go to. My mom is in a nursing home and still relies on me for a lot. I have three young kids, who have all been sick the last two weeks with hand, foot and mouth disease, two of the three had very bad cases. During this time I was unable to visit or help my mom (I usually visit every week). The kids are better and I made plans to bring my mom here on Monday. Well, I just came down with the virus, high fever, dizzy, blisters forming on my hands. I call to tell my mom and she is only concerned about herself and the things I can't bring her and that she has to be stuck there another week. Then she said she has nothing to add to the conversation and we got off the phone. I understand and expected her to be dissappointed, but no so selfish. No feel better, no anything like that, it was all about her. It really makes me feel used like she only wants me around so I can help her, that's it.... Is it typical for people in nursing homes to become more self centered? Or am i the self centered one?