Who live in different states than us and have not bothered to years. He has 2 girls on in Florida that he talks to regularly and has asked her to come to Oklahoma to visit offered to pay the way for her but she is mad because he won't go see her sons kids in Missouri and she wants him to move to Florida. And she is jealous that he will only claim my daughter's daughter as his grandchild,because he picked her name and my daughter brings her to visit us. But her son has never even tried to see him or bring his kids to see him. The other daughter has nothing to do with him and has even put in her blog on the Internet that she only has her mother. She only brought her kids to visit once because s he wanted him to sign some papers to get her mother out of tax trouble and he said no . She hasn't spoken to him since and she live in Arkansas less than 4 hours away. His son is in Missouri and only came to see him 1 time trying to see what he could get and took a jeep. That he was supposed to pay for but never has. And his son came one time on a fishing expedition to find out what his grandfather was worth and if he could get his hands on it. This man is my world he is 72 has heart problems and diabetes and recently developed asthma. I am 49 and can't imagine life without him. There will not be a funeral as I am going to have him cremated and put in a biodegradable urn with a tree seed and planted it by our pond behind our ranch housebeside with a headstone. And I am going to prevent arrange my final wishes to have the same done with me. Which brings me to my next problem. When I go I do not want my children notified either as my son has called me mental and told me to go away and my daughter has let her husband cuss me out and they were living on my property for free for 7 years and had gotten it in code violations and I insisted they clean it up. After he cussed me I told HIM to move. I knew she would go to but I also told him to take his junk cars and school bus with him. They left it all so I had it hauled off. TO get my butt out of going to new mexico for court. Since then she has come to my house told my husband horrible things about me said hateful things to me and threw me on the floor on my back for my birthday a year ago recreating the 15 unilateral breaks I had . Then screamed at me for disrespecting her while I sat on the floor and tried to comfort her crying daughter. I see no need to contact either his or my adult children so they can come cry crocodile tears and make a big seen. If we were not worth coming to see while we could talk to them and enjoy them what is the point in coming to see us in a box. We do not intend to give any of them a penny . Our wills name an executor and exactly who get our estate and when .