We bought a house before she was deemed with dementia. My bf of 12 years moved in with us to help me with her, caregiver also. APS said he has to pay 1 third of bills which he does as far as food power water and cable, but I pay all of house payments and him and my mom pay the rest of bills, and mom is well taking care of. All Dr bills paid and anything she needs. Handles, bedrails meds and food. They are accusing me of exploitation and did have abuse and neglect when someone called in. I have passed abuse and neglect from them, now they want me to show bank account to see mom's needs are met, which only exploration because my bf lives here, but we are family and I am POA over mom before she had dementia, and my bf helps with all bills except house, because I have paid all house payments. I am broke after I pay that so of course they both help me in some way. My 2bf and me pay moms car payment. We both are full time caregivers both disabled. I feel because we had our own lives before my mom got sick, we paid all our bills with our money together. But when moms husband died we had to get bigger house. Do u think I am exploiting my mom?