My home-bound 95 year old mother with dementia has caregivers come in daily however, they are only allowed to manage meals, housekeeping, etc. I have tried the CNA route to manage personal care and have the appropriate equipment available for showering, etc., however, she refuses a shower or help with cleaning herself and I was paying for an over-priced babysitter!
My biggest issues with her personal care are her hair and her feet. I am looking into bringing a CNA into the mix again to manage this care but the process to set this up with the current agency will be intrusive and not what my mother will put up with. I do not want to change agencies because she has several really good caregivers that I do not want to lose. I thought about having a hairdresser that does home visits come in to wash and set her hair once a week. Also, have worked with a podiatrist in past for foot care. The financial end of this issue is not the big problem, my stubborn, non-complaint mother is the issue. I am trying to uphold her wishes to be at home, not in a NH but feel like this whole process has become a big complicated headache to manage - any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.