No amt of reasoning works now the whole family is involved but besides ourselves. He is known to be a loving and sweet man. Everyone who knows him adores him he’s treated be the VA and I waiting to hear back from them.
It's a good idea to learn all you can about dementia by reading this booklet:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580
It's a 33 page download (free) called The Dementia Experience and talks all about what your husband is feeling and why he's making false accusations about you. This is a family disease, really, b/c it affects everyone, not just him. You cannot reason with your husband, you have to enter HIS reality and try to distract him from what he's stuck on at any moment; a person with dementia can only focus on ONE thing at a time, which is why distraction or giving them a snack works so well. Don't expect too much help from the doctors who don't understand too much themselves about the brain and mainly prescribe medications that can make matters worse.
What sort of pills was he prescribed and have you looked up their side effects? My mother is 95 with advanced dementia & reacts very badly to 90% of the medications she's given, so they have to be discontinued. They all exacerbate her dementia, is what happens, sometimes to the point where she falls and doesn't even realize she's on the floor! Don't trust a new medication blindly; always consider IT first as the reason your DH may be acting out. Also consider a UTI (urinary tract infection) for whenever he's acting particularly out of sorts with delusions as UTIs can make elders act VERY erratic.
But do read that booklet b/c you have to prepare yourself for what's ahead & what to expect as well as how YOU can best react to his behavior. And how to take care of yourself in the process; remember that there are TWO people here that are important; not just DH but you as well.
Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult situation
You don't say what kind of "pills" your husband was prescribed. Were they for his dementia? You may want to try taking him off that medication and see if his behavior improves. Keep in mind that there is no magic pill for any of the dementias. Some may help slow the progression, but that's about it. And the side effects can be quite severe in some of them. If he doesn't improve after being off them, he may just be further along in his dementia than his doctors initially thought. Definitely talk to his doctors as his behavior is not normal for someone with just "mild dementia." Best wishes.
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580
It's a 33 page download (free) called The Dementia Experience and talks all about what your husband is feeling and why he's making false accusations about you. This is a family disease, really, b/c it affects everyone, not just him. You cannot reason with your husband, you have to enter HIS reality and try to distract him from what he's stuck on at any moment; a person with dementia can only focus on ONE thing at a time, which is why distraction or giving them a snack works so well. Don't expect too much help from the doctors who don't understand too much themselves about the brain and mainly prescribe medications that can make matters worse.
What sort of pills was he prescribed and have you looked up their side effects? My mother is 95 with advanced dementia & reacts very badly to 90% of the medications she's given, so they have to be discontinued. They all exacerbate her dementia, is what happens, sometimes to the point where she falls and doesn't even realize she's on the floor! Don't trust a new medication blindly; always consider IT first as the reason your DH may be acting out. Also consider a UTI (urinary tract infection) for whenever he's acting particularly out of sorts with delusions as UTIs can make elders act VERY erratic.
But do read that booklet b/c you have to prepare yourself for what's ahead & what to expect as well as how YOU can best react to his behavior. And how to take care of yourself in the process; remember that there are TWO people here that are important; not just DH but you as well.
Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult situation
If he doesn't improve after being off them, he may just be further along in his dementia than his doctors initially thought. Definitely talk to his doctors as his behavior is not normal for someone with just "mild dementia."
Best wishes.